Got a burning question? Something BDSM-related that you’ve always wondered about or perhaps something you’ve wanted to ask me but wasn’t quite sure how? Now’s your chance. You can email me directly (AskMTO at TroyOrleans dotcom) or, if you prefer, ask me anonymously over on Formspring. I’ll pick the ones that most interest me and answer them here.
I’ve never had the opportunity to release an orgasm while being physically abused. I realize that probably ever sub on MF has been there at one time or another. I’m talking about no other contact in the lower region except pain. Or not even pain in that area, but pain some place to the body. I would think that, that would be the greatest orgasm of them all. As far as S/M is concerned. Am I wrong to think this? Is this the ultimate outcome for YOU as far as torturing a sub? Or are You disappointed, ( and pissed), that the sub showed You no respect and decided that it was “his” time for some enjoyment? Just wondering and hoping some day, it will be me.
A play partner having an orgasm while being tortured with absolutely no … uh … “encouraging” genital contact is pretty rare, actually. I don’t know where you get the idea that “probably every sub…has been there.”
As far as my approach to sessions go, your entire premise is just ridiculous. My feelings about orgasms is less about “ultimate outcome” or “showing me respect” and more along the lines of they’re great, but they’re not the focus/reason for the session. If your primary goal in play is just a kinky way to get off, then I’m not the right dominant for you. You can pinch your nipples and jerk off at home. A session is OUR time for enjoyment: I want to love and enjoy what I’m doing to you as much as you love and enjoy taking it.