My dear friend and comrade in kink Suzanne SxySadist had a great blog post yesterday about blindfolds and gags. It’s the February 22, 2008 entry here: http://blog.myspace.com/suzanne_sxysadist
It’s really great timing in part because the issue of basic safety measures and “SM-101” type lessons has been forward in my mind of late. It just seems at times that in the rush to find the next edge or declare ourselves “the best” at some particular area of play, that many of us end up taking the basics for granted, if not overlooking them entirely.
For example, Suzanne jokes in her blog about the Collar Me types who claim themselves “experts” at gags, as if stuffing something in someone’s mouth could be done more masterfully by an expert than a novice. As she talks about it, though, it’s clear that there are things to understand about gags that aren’t immediately obvious.
I’ve always had a competitive streak and a generously sized ego and when it comes to dungeon skills I can get pretty snobby about my shit. But then I think about my yoga practice and how there’s room for refinement in every pose. I look at Suzanne, someone who has earned the right to be really snobby yet still attends as many workshops as she teaches (if not more). There are a lot of really talented Dominas in my social circle that make me realize the snobby thing is really immature and short-sighted.
We ALL have things to learn.
hey there.