Mistress Wynter recently posted on her MF board asking how clients would feel about being forced to masturbate at the start of a session and then continuing with intense play. It’s an interesting premise. I used to work with a Domme who would always end her session if the client had a premature orgasm. “They’re useless after they come,” she’d say. I can also appreciate the “Let’s get that out of the way” approach. I mean, there are some days that I LOVE orchestrating a man’s orgasm and there are other days when it’s the last thing I want to see or even concern myself with.
There’ve been a few times when a client has orgasmed before I was finished playing with him. Sometimes it put a halt to all activities (I’ve found masochists have a, um, harder time recovering post-climax); sometimes it’s this really sweet intermission and an interesting challenge to bring him right back up again. Once or twice, the party just kept on going.
You know. Fluidly.
*snort* I crack myself up sometimes.
Anyway, thinking about pre-scene orgasms made me giggle a bit too. I masturbate before many of my sessions. It’s not especially sexy though. Part of the problem is that my studio isn’t a live/work space; I have an apartment on the Upper West Side and it takes me at least a half-hour to get to my studio. Invariably, when I have an appointment, I’m busy until the last possible minute I need to get ready. That puts me under the gun and when I get stressed … well, sometimes the only thing that’ll sort me out is to rub one out.
Guys, you know exactly the kind of wank I’m talking about too, yes? That maddening, distracting, insistent twinge that won’t go away or let you think about anything else? So when you finally give in, it’s almost begrudging. “OKAY!” And then it’s like fumbling with a combination lock. “Come ON already!” The release itself isn’t even all that pleasurable as much as it is a relief. “Whew. Now I can actually get something DONE!”
Like, you know, get to my studio for our appointment.
So, the next time you’re sitting in the Starbucks waiting for me, perhaps it’ll be some small consolation to think that somewhere in Manhattan, there’s a beautiful woman coming just to see you.
Testing, testing, is this thing on?
I recently started thinking about this pre-orgasim concept myself. My concept went something like this… The first orgasim would occur soon after being placed in comfortable, secure, and sensory depriving bondage. This would be followed by a period of abandonment. The session would be brought back on line at some point and whoever is in charge would commence whatever activities they choose. The conclusion would obvioulsy be a much sweeter and well earned second orgasim. AHHH, springs and boards, springs and boards….
Miss Orleans,
Hey, I know that Starbucks. It’s a favorite hangout of mine.
Yours,
Whizzer
“I’ve found masochists have a, um, harder time recovering post-climax”
I’m very curious to know what you mean by that.
Do you mean masochists in general (even outside the context of BDSM) or do you mean when pain is involved?
I ask because I’ve never experienced any sort of pain/pleasure combination. It’s always been one or the other. Do you mean that after an orgasm followed by pain the refractory period is longer?
Inquiring minds want to know.:)
Ah, yes- I’ve recently been incorporating forced orgasm into torture scenes basically milking and then continuing with CBT and stimulation. Heaven for a Sadist. I believe you have the V2k also? Might be something you’d enjoy as much as I do!
If I were a sub, and a SAM I would certainly now try to make sure to interrupt your pre-scene wank with a phone call just to see if I could get extra punishment for ruining it…
Yes, anonymous. It’s working.
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T, you’re talking about some of my favorite things there. You may just inspire a non-stress related release…
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I keep thinking that I need to instruct the baristas at that Starbucks that when someone comes in and asks for a “Troy” they’ll know to make a grande vanilla latte, whole milk, no foam.
Because y’all have a hard time remembering my order. Haven’t had anyone get it wrong yet, mind you. More that every time I say, “Get me a Starbucks” I have to explain what that means. Again.
Sigh.
Axe,
What I meant by getting masos to recover is that the pain tolerance goes down significantly after orgasm.
I’m not really sure about refractory periods post-orgasm when there’s pain involved. I, uh, haven’t really done the research. But recently I conducted a few experiments with pain and bringing someone to the edge of orgasm and found, well, that pain isn’t as much of a deterrent as one might think.
Hope that answers your question, curious george. 😉
Well, aren’t you cruel, missy!? 😉
Yeah, I’ve got a Venus2K, but lately I haven’t been enjoying as much as I used to. It’s been bruising my guys, for one. For two … it just seems a little inefficient. And it feels a little disconnected to me. So detached. It’s not like I’m shy about getting a little cock on my hand when needed. It’s probably going to take the right scene for me to fall back in love with it again. That forced orgasm/torture combo may be just the ticket, actually.
If people DO start deliberately interrupting my wank now, I’m holding you responsible!
Well, lets flip the question around, Little Miss Sadist. If masochists’ pain tolerance goes down after they have an orgasm, wouldn’t a sadist’s ability to inflict pain also go down after an orgasm? Maybe you, by masturbating beforehand, aren’t inflicting enough pain in a session.
My own experience as an extreme masochist has been that the moment i come, I instantly lose that endorphin high and if my Mistress resumes whipping, it hurts just indescribably. Being forced to orgasm before receiving punishment is about the scariest thing that could happen in a “safe’ session.
J.T.
Uhhh…once I got about halfway down this post, I was in no condition to reply.
I don’t see it as a terrible thing, but the performance anxiety could be tough to overcome if it’s too early in the scene.
Oh, wait…did I forget who I’m talking to? Forcing a guy to cum, under any conditions, is probably the least of your concerns.
You said afterwards”now I can finally get something done” not me afterwards I get one of thoses naps where I have to change the pillow case. deep with lots of drool!