Over the years I’ve had various play partners express an interest in being summoned.
Such as this:
I had this dream this morning in New York, or it could have my wakening thought. It turned out I had become independently and inexplicitly wealthy. While for most people this would prompt thoughts of that world vacation or that luxury home, I was most comforted by the thought that unfettered by the act of going to work, I could concentrate on the truly important things in life.
Whenever you felt the need to smote (or stroke), I could be summoned without arrangement or preamble. And at such time as you became tired of me, I would be just as summarily dismissed. I became so gosh darned comfortable with the idea of being so delightfully/dreadfully used — for you to have such control and reach into my life, and for me to provide you with genuine utility — that it came as a huge shock to realize that I wasn’t, in fact, wealthy at all. A bit later on in the day I also added the caveat that I wouldn’t be permitted to request an appointment of you myself, ever. Which, would no doubt have me spending the day waiting for your call — a really severe way I thought, to encourage and cultivate my longing.
and, from another, this
I would like to be summoned by you when it is convenient for you and when you have an itch for me. Assuming I have not told you I will be out of town we should agree on a punishment if I cannot make it when you issue your summons. If I put you off twice lets agree on a second more severe punishment. After that I am at your mercy, no limits.
I’ve always loved the idea of summoning, which actually worked out really well that day, and here, where I confessed an overwhelming urge to invite a man over just so I could punch him in the face. (I still want to do that. Sometimes I have a specific man in mind. Sometimes I don’t.)
Given the nature of my practice, however, I’m often at the mercy, so to speak, of whoever’s scheduled for the day. Even though most of my play partners give me carte blanche, I have a dynamic that’s specific and unique to each of them. My cravings, much like my play, aren’t exactly a one-size-fits-all thing.
Then there’s the logistical stuff. A lot of my guys can’t take marks. Hardly anyone has an “on demand” schedule (or budget) that accommodates my appetite. Plus, that kind of “I don’t care what you like, I’m taking what I need” kind of chemistry is really, really rare.
Oh, yeah…and I hate being told “No.” I would rather go without than ask and be told “No, I can’t.” Unacceptable.
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When my play partner submitted the first scenario, I grew giddy with the fine tuned thought that he would never be able to request time with me but rather be subject only to my desire for him. I wondered if he imagined I’d summon him only once every few weeks, or few months, or few days. Maybe every day. Having someone at your beck and call is a rather erotic fantasy, particularly coupled with a lack of pretense. “Come here,” I say to him and whether I’m asking him to strip, kneel, and be whipped, or I want to throw him in The Pound for an hour, or I just want him to bring me a pint of coffee ice cream, he would come and it would be done.
The second scenario helped solve a bit of the “No, I can’t, Mistress” issue. Punishment, however, has never really been my thing. I only punish when it’s very well deserved, and even then, it’s more in a “I’m not going to see you any more” kind of way than it is a “Take six of the best” with a ruler.
Those are but two examples. Any time I’ve tried summoning, after the first or second time, it usually falls apart. But when they CAN come close, can say “Yes.” Oh, it’s magical, it is. You can’t even fathom the thrill I had when the Fun and Games said he was on his way.
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I have someone now with whom I’ve been doing a modified summoning. He sends me porn he’s written himself and it excites me so, I call him. “Come now. I want that,” I’ll say.
And he usually does. And I get what I want. His body straining against ropes. The guttural, helpless moans when I’m hurting him. Convulsive heat. Stress positions. A ruined orgasm. A nonchalant, CFNM game of Scrabble. His imagination spurs my desire and then we end up in a fantasy made real.
The tinge of financial domination implicit in being ordered to come in for a session is rather edgy play for me. I’ve never made a practice of directly asking people to session, mostly out of concern they’d misinterpret my motive. But when it’s clear that it’s my desire that’s driving the invitation: that’s a FinDom hotness I can get behind. That’s why the thing with the Writer works. He strikes the match, I ignite. He knows he’s playing with fire. But what a lovely way to burn.
Maybe it’s the cold weather but I’ve recently been having a recurring day dream about packing it all in, moving to the warm island where my friend She lives, and asking to be her general dogsbody gofer. Whenever she needed anything she’d summon. I’d live asetically, with next to no possessions. From my share of separation booty I’d last quite a long time.
I like the thought of ceding control, but I think it’s a fantasy for me. Even if circumstances and finance allowed, I’d probably not be comfortable being on permanent Bat-phone alert.
CFNM scrabble??? OMG so hot. I’m such a bad scrabble player…
TO (yeah, that works):
Oh, the possibilities!! It seems that immediacy and control make the possibility of Summoning so very hot.
I agree that as described in your two examples Summoning on a regular basis is probably not all that realistic. Most of us just don’t have lives that would allow for it. However, I think that with a few permutations this is something you could really do and have a lot of fun with. Here are some ideas:
*One day you post to your blog/Twitter/blast email that at 3PM you want one of your established play partners in the Studio because you want to do x with him. The first one to respond gets to join you. You Summoned and he’s responded. The immediacy will be influenced by when you put up the notice. The earlier you post the larger the universe of possible positive replies. The later the post the immediacy is heightened!
*You have a guy who sees you about once a month. In March you tell him to send you his schedule for May and you want to know every available timeslot he has of at least 6 hours. Everytime thereafter that another commitment eliminates a timeslot he is to let you know. He is not to ask for an appointment in May. You will contact him. Maybe with a week’s notice, maybe a day, maybe the same day. It’s up to you. That is why it’s important to keep you advised of his schedule. He better have a ready reason to excuse himself for one of those open timeslots. Also, during the month of May until he hears from you he is not to look at your website, read your Twitter, read any of your posts on Max (if any!), look at your Eros ad or even go back to the Serious Bondage/Serious Images spread. He’s just to wait to hear from you. He’s only to check his email for a message from you. Then you can screw with him by sending emails that when opened simply say, “Not today!” Such control and the immediacy will feel overwhelming whether it’s short notice or not because the immediacy will exist each and every day while he waits to be summoned.
*Use the new Orleans Intensive idea. While he might make the first contact you have the control to accept or not and your idea for this is that it’s on pretty short notice. I almost called you to try the OI this past Sunday night. I would have called about 6PM. Been available by 6:30. I had an hour!! The thought was driving my crazy. The sense of urgency is tantalizing as compared to the normal scheduling which is often days or weeks in advance.
*While I know you’re not a big fan of distance control it still offers some possibilities – although probably more for him that you. Have an email waiting for him in the morning. He’s to perform tasks you assign at 9, 10, 11, 12 & 1. Then at 2PM he’s to be somewhere private where he can call you. What happens in the phone call. Who knows! It’s your control. Maybe you don’t even answer. Maybe you send a text right before and cancel. Maybe you just talk. He’s ramped up and you’re in total control. Maybe you offer the chance to come in and see you sooner that usual, but that decision you leave up to him.
Well, just some food for thought. One thing about these ideas though is that you are not exerting the Financial Domination that concerns you. The last one you might do just for kicks. The others either he’s made contact or he’s on his regular schedule. It’s just that you have added these other levels of immediacy and control.
Summoning! Oh, the possibilties!!
Whizzer
@advo
I think truly ceding control is only a fantasy for a most people. As it should be. I mean, to give oneself over for a day or two could be intriguing, interesting experiment. But that 24/7 TPE? Seems illogical and impractical to me. Maybe I’m too much of a literalist, though.
To that, I’d also add, that part of what makes any play partner compelling, at least to me, is the fullness of his life. That he brings something to the table besides adoration and service. I absolutely believe that one of my most valuable attributes as a Domme is that I’m more than just a domme.
@whizzer
I don’t get my “M” from you anymore? What’s up with that? “TO” works for whom?
Those are some interesting ideas. I especially like the first one, since that comes closest to fitting my interests/personality/intention than any. The second one is kinda cute, on reflection, but experience tells me that kind of setup would cause me more pressure than pleasure. The OI kinda grew from a desire for spontaneous, short scenes. I may finally implement it come late Feb/early Mar as I expect to be in the studio a lot more then. The 4th option is pretty unlikely for me (I am SO awful at coming up with “tasks”).
I’ll think on ’em all though and maybe implement one soon. Thanks!
Dear Miss Troy Orleans,
What happened to your “M”? I know I dream about you a lot, but I’d swear you wrote somewhere (on your Twitter?) that you were considering dropping the “M” and you wondered how people would react! I was merely offering my opinion that I think it would work just fine for you!!
A thousand pardons if I misinterpreted something! Perhaps I deserve a thousand lashes with a wet noodle…or to “Take six of the best” with a ruler!! Did I really just say that, knowing that I’ll be seeing you before too long!
I’m glad I was able to generate a little food for thought. As for your comment about being SO awful when coming up with “tasks”, please allow me to respectfully disagree. You’re amazingly creative as I would be happy to personally attest.
Be well.
Whizzer
Oh, yeah…and I hate being told “No.” I would rather go without than ask and be told “No, I can’t.” Unacceptable.
YES!
That’s one of the worst things ever. I once had to let someone go because I was promised summoning power and then wasn’t able to exercise it. That just deflated me. Knocked all the lust for him right outta me.
I like Whizzer’s ideas though!