While I don’t think I did my first solo professional session until sometime in mid-March, today — 3/3/12 — marks eight years since my 3/3/04 debut as “Mistress Troy Orleans,” apprentice to Domina M at her boutique Murray Hill dungeon Luxuria. March 3, 2004 is the day I got my “Miss Orleans” account for The Hang on Max Fisch and made my very first post. In short: It’s my dommiversary!
When I started my apprenticeship at Luxuria, I didn’t even intend to be a prodomme for more than eight weeks. It was probably right around the eight week mark when Domina M commented that, with so much going on in my vanilla career, she thought I’d be the first apprentice to quit until she realized, “you like to win.” She was quick to clarify that she didn’t mean I was out to best my fellow mistresses but, rather, that she could tell how important it was to me to do well at whatever I did.
She was right.
Unlike in vanilla-land, there’s no real or meaningful marker in this world for being “the best” — no bonus, no corner office, fancy title or promotion. “The best” is actually a pointlessly useless comparison and I’ve always rolled my eyes at the dommelettes who suggest otherwise. A prodomme can snuff a candle with her whip or rig a Texas handcuff in .02 seconds or pee for 132 seconds straight, but the only thing that truly matters is whether or not she connects with her client. It’s like golf. Fancy clubs, a beautiful swing, terrific handicap… but, in the end, you still gotta get the ball in the hole, y’know?
It’s that essential, I think, that’s been largely responsible for my longevity and continued interest in and desire for play. BDSM, for me, has always been about the journey, not the destination. I started prodomming because it seemed the most effective and efficient way to learn as much as I could about BDSM: a wide variety of play partners, the guidance of experienced mistresses, access to a ton of equipment I’d never have been able to afford (or be able to justify acquiring) on my own. Numbers have never been important to me; I want to genuinely look forward to and enjoy every scene I choose to do. To this day, I still love having the opportunity to live out all my kinky fantasies and to be challenged and inspired by an assortment of wonderful men who share my enthusiasms. In this way, we all win.
So, to celebrate the last eight years of my journey — and appreciate all of you who’ve contributed to it — I’m extending a very special offer. For the next eight days (Mar 4-11), anyone who has ever sessioned with me before may schedule an appointment at my original 2005 independent rates: $250/1hr, $440/2hrs or $620/3hrs. Overnights are $1800.
If we’ve never played together, you’re invited to play with me at 20% off my current (2012) Tribute. This 20% discount offer is good for everyone, new and previous play partners, through March 19.
To request a session, please submit an email to: 
with “Anniversary Special” in the subject line. If we’ve sessioned before and you think I might not remember you, please provide some identifying details (email address you used to make the earlier appointment, where we sessioned, and/or what happened in the scene).
Thank you, all of you, for being part of this amazing and treasured adventure. I hope to see many of you over the next few weeks … and that our paths continue to intersect in the years to come. In the meantime, please feel free to use the comments to share your favorite MTO memories.
Happy Dommiversary MTO!
I recall a certain dinner on a hot August evening we both attended with fellow kinksters organized by our mutal friend Aarkey. Afterwards we all went to Max Fish, the bar on the LES. I left early joking that I had to get up early the next morning and go beg on behalf of a client. You were wearing some incredibly sexy looking hot pants and suspender looking outfit. You looked me straight in the eye and said, “Why don’t you get down on your knees and try it out on me?”
I froze momentarily, caught between desire and propriety. I knew you knew I was bound in that moment with what it is you do so well. We were connected. You held my gaze for delicious seconds and then said, “I’m just kidding.”
Regaining some semblance of composure I blurted, “Well…that’s too bad.”
Bask in the esteem of colleagues, the admiration of friends, and the love of your clientele. You are a wonderful and unique woman Ms. Troy Orleans. The world is a much better place with you in it, doing what you do.
PS – Thanks for adding me to your Blogroll. xo
Congratulations! In a business that seems to have a revolving door that is quite an accomplishment.
If only I was free to do so I’d be requesting an OE appointment and booking flights
Happy Domminaversary! One thing I find with any milestones, they are always a good time to reflect back at everything that’s gone on. The growth, the experiences, the interests, the evolution.
*HUG*
C
Happy Domminaversary!
Not sure if I agree with you that the “best” really is as pointlessly useless as you make it out to be, but I would say that there are few Dommes who create the scene as well as you do.
Congratulations!
B.
Congratulations MTO!!!
Thank you for creating a BDSM playspace and experience like none other in an atmosphere of consensual kink like none other.
Thank you also for the opportunity to help celebrate you “Dommiversary” with such a fantastic offer!
RNJ
Troy,
Congratulations. What a fantastic accomplishment. I truly believe that your insistence on connection and not artifice has changed the industry.
You know what they say about first impressions. Our first session will always remain my fondest memory. I wrote about it here.You responded with this comment.
We both got a bit carried away and did things we should not have. Yet it created a connection that has endured for almost 7 years. Since then there have been dozens of sessions, dinners, lunches, shopping trips, talks, walks, emails and fun times. During that time you taught me how to embrace my BDSM side with pride and strength. For that I will always be thankful. It has made me a better and more complete man. And that, dear lady, will remain the enduring impact you have made in my life.
Often, I also think back to our overnight last summer. An impending business trip allowed us to play at levels of intensity that I must normally avoid. Your words, “Well done.”, when you finished a particularly intense portion of what we were doing that evening still reverberate in my head.
You’ve often written about the Reciprocal Energy Loop that you so enjoy. Reading through some of the comments in the Max thread you cited demonstrates this is something you were already tuned into during your first week at Luxuria.
Checkout the end of the second paragraph!!! Maybe you were just a baby dome, but you were well on your way to the greatness you have achieved.
So thanks for the memories. And congratulations again. There will never be another Troy Orleans!
Best,
Whizzer
@whizzer
Well, that’s a blast from the past! It is amazing to me to see how consistent many of my themes or philosophies have been over the years, though reading some of my babydomme posts, I wince a little at all the giddy emoting! (And did you notice my P/protocol caps? Bless my li’l dommelette heart.)
I am very fortunate to have had your good company for most of this journey and hope we continue to share this kinky path together.
@RNJ
Thanks for the kind words and for being such a positive part of my experience! I miss you! Hope this means I get to see you sooner rather than later!
@cyka
Perhaps I should’ve clarified that “best” makes a great personal adjective — as in “She’s the best I’ve ever played with” but isn’t terribly useful as a public measure. I’m definitely not “the best” for everyone. Thanks for the well wishes … and for being my go-to cyka. Never been anyone like you, either.
@aarkey
It was actually really nice taking a trip down memory lane reading my old posts as well as trading stories with Domina M on my Max thread. I almost mentioned the time you came to visit Luxuria. Remember that? Mei *SO* made it clear she had dibs on you…though, if I remember correctly, you were kinda ‘meh’ about Mei yourself. Chuckle.
@furfan
I’ve had a few conversations recently with some people I’ve known from the beginning (or close enough) about how nearly everyone who was prominent in the group I came up in is now gone. Of the dozens of NYC dommes that trained me or that I came up closely with, besides myself, only Wynter, Cassandra and Tess remain. Crazy.
Happy Dommiversary! Thank you for having allowed me to play with you in the past. I am constantly on the lookout for excuses for going to NYC.
Happy Domversary from bda, miss you
@Eric
Oh, darlin. I miss you too. Lots. Thank you.
@Brian
You have been such a pleasure. I am very much looking forward to your return. Thank you.
Happy Domminaversary Ms. Orleans! Reading your post on Max and your exchange with Domina M was a blast! Made me wish I had known both of you during the early days of Luxuria! 😉
I don’t have many friends in the pro scene anymore but I truly hope that I can count you among them. All of my closest subbie friends have been friends and/or clients of yours and for good reason. Beyond being smart, beautiful and one hell of a great dominatrix you are sincere, straight forward and trustworthy; not easy qualities to find out there.
I had some difficult times following the closing of a certain dungeon that will remain nameless. You were tremendously helpful and supportive to me during that painful and confusing period. I felt like I had a guardian angel watching over me; someone I could trust who knew a hell of a lot more about the pro scene than I did. You really helped me a lot.
Best of luck Troy. I wish you many more terrific years of domination. You are truly one of the great ones!
Best
hmp