Got a burning question? Something BDSM-related that you’ve always wondered about or perhaps something you’ve wanted to ask me but wasn’t quite sure how? Now’s your chance. You can email me directly (AskMTO at TroyOrleans dotcom) or, if you prefer, ask me anonymously over on Formspring. I’ll pick the ones that most interest me and answer them here.
- Just reviewed your last seven blog entries. Time for some wanking material, please and thank you.
- Do you ever have to delete or remove comments to your blog? If so, why?
Occasionally, I get snarky bits of uselessness — usually via email — like that first “question” (which arrived via Formspring) and I’ll either ignore or delete it, depending on where it is. As for deleting or removing comments from my blog, it’s happened very rarely. Assuming it’s a valid comment — i.e. it’s a direct response to the post, it’s civil in tone and reasonably grammatical — I don’t know why I’d delete or unapprove it. I don’t mind being disagreed with and I welcome constructive criticism.
One time that did not happen was a couple of years ago when a misguided dude was posting hateful and/or aggressive comments on my blog in hopes of getting my attention. He said he wanted to session with me, though I can’t see why on Earth he’d think that was the right way to respond to my initial rejection if he expected my answer to change. This is a weird phenomenon among certain … well, I can’t call them “clients” because I don’t think anyone ever sessions with them. Among my colleagues and from what I see on Twitter, there are a lot of guys who seem to think that if they call us names or say terrible things that we’re gonna agree to play with them.
Outside of deliberately mean crap like that, there’s only one comment I’ve ever removed, as far as I can recall. But I did approve it initially and let it stay up for a bit. This was last year when I made my birthday post. A frequent reader and nonclient decided to comment anonymously to tell me he found my post distastefully entitled, “gold-diggerish,” and very “out of character.” I addressed his issues privately over email. Ultimately, I felt his accusations were patronizing, presumptuous, and in no way reflected my intentions when I wrote the post. Rather than let his comment stand and taint what was otherwise a very beautiful, affirming, positive, and memorable time, I removed it.
It’s actually kinda surprising (knock wood) that I don’t get more trolls on my blog. I don’t even get many trollish emails for that matter. Sometimes I attribute that to just not leaving a lot of purchase for the wankers and otherwise malintentioned. I’m not terribly provocative or fetishizable or easily provoked. Plus I try to keep things positive. Like attracts like, or something like that.