It’s rare for me to browse gear sites because, well, I need more gear like I need prostate exam. But as I tripped around the web today, I stumbled upon the SexandMetal.com site and found this fantastic suspendable steel cage. What I especially like is that when it’s not holding you in the air, it’d make a great ottoman or coffee table. (I’ve been thinking a lot about space lately, so I’ve got multifunction on the brain).
Plus. I love cages.
Maybe I’ll end up with as many cages as I have posture collars. Though if you count head cages and hanging strap cages and cock cages, I’m well over already. See what I mean about not needing to browse gear sites?
I think my love of cages is strongly related to my objectification fetish. There’s something perversely appealing to me about having someone in a cage, like an ornament. Or a piece of furniture. “Oh, don’t mind him…” kind of thing. Eventually, though, whoever’s in the cage always makes noise or needs attention well before I’m ready to start thinking about him again and give it. Gotta figure that part out. Or, I dunno. Maybe that’s part of it.
I keep fantasizing about having a client come over and be put in the Pound or the sleeping cage for the afternoon while I do errands around the studio: laundry, fitting Venus2000 receivers with new latex sleeves, cleaning, rope conditioning, leather cleaning, talking on the phone with Mistress Crimson… whatevs. It’d be tributed, but less than usual since I want you to be able to stay as long as I’m happy having you around and because there’d be no additional play (e.g. electrics, NT, catheters, etc.), though basic bondage elements like fist mitts, hoods, sleep sacks, shackles, etc. are definite possibilities. Lemme know if you’re interested.
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Speaking of things on the Internet that make me go WANT!, whenever I go to Clips4Sale — like to check out my friend Mistress Wynter’s remarkable new C4S store or see what my favorite masochist Bart is up to over at the legendary Syren Productions — I inevitably end up searching out Lexi Sindel’s Femdom Empire clips. Generally speaking, I’m usually disappointed in what passes for BDSM video these days. Looking at a site like Kink.com, for example, you’d be hard pressed to know it was BDSM-themed production after the first few introductory minutes. I don’t want to see women sucking cock in my kinky porn. I want to see creative bondage, challenging predicaments, gleeful sadism, abject humiliation and desperation first. And if the domme gets so turned on by her control that she has to use his cock … so be it. Which is why I love Lexi’s videos. Honestly, I should just buy a cart full of those things given how much I stare at the little preview GIFs. Lexi is one of those rare BDSM pornographers who manage to portray female sexual dominance in a way that actually feels like the woman is being DOMINANT and not just showing off her naked body while she gives a man an orgasm. The women of Femdom Empire make those men EARN that shit by forcing, humiliating, inflicting, subjecting, pounding, kicking, burning, and beating it out of them. It’s AMAZING and inspiring. I get super turned on watching it in a way that hardly any other kink-themed porn makes me do. If you’ve ever wondered if there’s such a thing as a “dominant hand job,” all you have to do is pick a clip from Femdom Empire. Even better, by all accounts, Lexi runs a very professional shop that’s super respectful to her talent: all the women I know who’ve shot with her say it’s a great experience.
Judging by the photo i am guessing you would need a bigger cage , I for one know i won’t fit :-}
@Nips
Yeah. I was thinking about that. Like, when it’s not being a cage, what’s it gonna be? A high top bar table? :-/ What kind of dimensions are necessary to make it a multifunctional piece that’s big enough for most of my play partners to fit in? (Though some of my play partners mightcould be thinking about how to make *themselves* more fit-able…).
I also see possibilities, Partner on back legs and hands tied to or cuffed to bar going across when lifted . And you know i am always interested in the possibilities.
I find the idea of being restrained,caged and then left for an extended period of time interesting. The dehumanizing aspect of it is very hot. Almost like being put in storage. I’m not sure I’d want that to be the entire session in and of itself but as a component it sounds intriguing. Perhaps as a bridge between different types of play in a longer session? Or maybe it could take the form of a sort of extended introduction to a session. Being left to stew for a few hours while in a fever pitch of pre-session anticipation could certainly ramp up the excitement!
@furfan
The time factor is the biggest hurdle for me. When I fantasize about this stuff, I imagine 3-5 hours. Whenever I’ve tried this in a real life actual session? More like 30-90 minutes. And I’m talking about OEs here, where there’s no clock. I think it’s probably more MY headspace than his that makes it hard to go much longer than that: I get super-self conscious about “doing nothing” even though that kind of play is so far from “doing nothing.” (I spoke about this in one of my replies in that MF thread linked here)
There’ve been a few sessions that have been expressly negotiated around long term bondage and abandonment, and those have been about 2-3 hours. One lasted 20 hours before we BOTH mercied out.
@sexandmetal
Thanks for making great stuff! Good to know about that removable cushion. I’d love to hear your suggestions on how to make the cage more fit-friendly for larger/less flexible male bodies while still keeping it suspendable and versatile.
As an aside: I own your hand traps — which are just wicked.
@aarkey
I feel like the Kink.com I was first introduced to 6+ years actually was more BDSM than fetish. Maybe I’m mistaken. What sucks, though, is that they’re such a dominant voice in the industry, many traditional BDSM video producers have felt they have to incorporate more sexual/fetish elements in their work, just to keep up, much less compete.
Troy,
Great post thank you for the mentions on your blog and twitter 🙂
There is actually a removable cushion fitted to the bottom of the box that you can take out and fits perfectly on the lid of the box so you can play on the top of it.
Glad you enjoy.
S&M
Fun post…. and FWIW, Kink.com is what I call “fetish porn” and nothing more. Its definitely not BDSM. At least 99% of it. Not that I go and look at their stuff too often, nor do I try to avoid it… as it is reposted all over the web these days.
And if it inspires people to incorporate something into real life, well then at least its inspiring.
That’s an incredible cage. You don’t see very many that small. Reminds me of stuff I used to see in Gord or Insex vids. It seems like it would be a different experience where the captive is literally constrained by the cold steel, rather than merely restricted to the confines of a cage more like the Pound.
Your caging and abandonment fantasy sure goes back a long way. I was just reading a great thread you started on MF back in 07 titled “leave him alone: abandonment play.” Was that before you even had a cage? You only mentioned a sleepsack in that thread. Back then, you seemed very interested in the effect abandonment play had on the dominant. Sure, its easy to lock him in and announce “I’m leaving you, deal with it,” but what do you do then? How does a control freak deal with lose of control? You said it would be hard to stay away and called it edgy more than once.
I am curious how your experience has developed since you wrote that post. Have you had any scenes that were memorable for you involving the long term abandonment fantasy? Is it still edgy? There were some really extreme scenes in the MF thread, but some didn’t go till the end. Perhaps the long term aspect is hotter in practice for you than your captive.
@litterarius
Welcome to my blog! And what an awesome way to introduce yourself! I agree that a great deal of the appeal is being as much constrained by the metal as restrained by it. It’d be a piece not made for every body, but for the bodies that it could take, I’m sure it’d be an intense trip.
You bringing up that thread (Nov 2007!!) kinda surprised and made me blush in realization and acknowledgement of what an obvious and abiding interest this is of mine. I think in Fall 2007, I had a cage, but it was worthless — it was the undercage of my first bondage bed. The bars on that thing were set so far apart, I could literally crawl through them to get inside. Definitely negated the bondage for me, even if some clients couldn’t fit through the bars themselves. I received The Pound in Jan 2009 and was thrilled to finally upgrade to my decidedly inescapable/impenetrable Metalbound bondage bed/cage a few months later.
Since then, I’ve had a decent amount of experience with long(er) caging and abandonment, enough that I can finally get a decent sleep when I’m doing overnights. Most memorable so far was that 20hr bondage scene I did (it was the beginning of a scene that began on Thurs evening and ended Sunday morning). He was caged overnight, chained and abandoned for an hour (while I went to the Greenmarket), caged while fed breakfast, chained to a post and ordered to clean up, put back in the undercage with sensedep and I left for about 90 min but unbeknownst to him (initially) I left him with a minder (she was given instructions to keep interaction to a minimum — and only if he started to panic). When I returned, he was bound and played with some more and then I left him in four point restraints while I went to dinner. When I returned, we both said “Mercy.” He was sent to his hotel (in chastity and lightly bound) to recuperate and I went straight to bed to do the same. It was intense, to say the least, and I know I should write about it “formally” — I’ve had a partial draft sitting in a folder for months — but … it’s, like, MINE, you know? It doesn’t feel like something I’m ready to share.
Anwyay, is it still edgy? Yes. YES. Very much so. It’s still the most challenging thing I do. As a result of this blog, I have plans to do another cage-and-ignore scene with The Pound this weekend. I am anticipating it — with fear, excitement, anxiety, avidity, nervousness, dread, joy — which is not how I usually look forward to a scene.
I too went back and read that MF thread from 07. It was fascinating stuff and reminded me of how interesting and active that board used to be.
I’ve always found periods of abandonment (often combined with some form of sensory deprivation) served as a very effective way of highlighting the power exchange/lack of control on the part of the sub I find necessary for a truly successful session.
For those of you looking for that thread (and it is sad how good it is. I miss those conversations.), you can read it all here: http://www.maxfisch.com/thehang/showflat.php?Cat=2,3,4&Board=discuss&Number=1031905&page=&view=&sb=&o=&fpart=all&vc=1
I always loved long term abandonment. It’s such a simple and wonderful idea. I have only once indulged in a scene like this, not knowing where the studio was, setting off walking to the instructions of text messages to odd locations all across town. Eventually I found myself at the final location and in comfortable but isolated bondage for about 3 hours.
@aziraphale
Welcome to my blog! What a great idea for a scene. While I don’t think anyone would accuse me of lacking in creativity, sometimes I think I get so focused on, like, having my play partner in front of me, in the studio, and thinking about what I’m going to do to him, I forget that not all play requires my physical presence. Thanks for the reminder and inspiration!
Here’s a question. Does it have to involve a cage or could you accomplish the same thing with a bondage bag secured to a table or perhaps leaving the sub well secured to your chair?
Would it still be considered abandonment if your partner is caged and out of the way while you kept yourself busy with another session .
How would you be able to deal with the issue of a small one or two room studio? Does the abandonment dynamic still work if the sub can hear you moving around ? Would you need to use earplugs or white noise headphones? Alternatively, would the sub being able to hear you going about your day heighten the sense of being ignored?
@furfan
So many questions! 🙂
This is one of those cases where “perception is reality” applies tenfold. In a typical session context (e.g. an OE as opposed to a scene specifically negotiated and focused on caging/bondage/abandonment), I may play with a sense of abandonment without actually leaving him. With good sensory deprivation bondage, this is pretty easy to do, even if I don’t leave the room. I’ve got industrial earplugs, padded sensedep hoods, noise reduction ear buds, and a stealthy tread…throw in some spring suspension to upset his sense of balance/gravity and some electrics to distract his brain and he won’t be certain of his own vitals, much less where I might be.
Other times, I may just put him on his back, legs up, in The Pound with all his senses intact and only his parts restrained (feet, hands, cock, head), if that. THEN it’s about the maddening incomplete knowledge: he may hear me, or be able to see part or all of me, but no matter how he tries to engage me, he gets no response. No eye contact. No conversation. No touch. ALL anticipation.
Both scenes appeal to me. Though the latter is harder because sometimes desperation is noisy and I have neighbors.
And, no, there doesn’t have to be a cage, though that extra level of prohibition is very attractive to me in a way that a chair in the middle of the room that I could go over to any time isn’t quite. I dunno. Maybe he really would be a piece of furniture in that situation. I haven’t really explored that way much. The cage gives a definite sense of being “put away” but what you describe does not.
@nips
I get that suggestion with surprising frequency, though it’s often proposed as a way to lower his tribute (i.e. “You can do other sessions! I’ll just be bundled in the corner for free! Don’t mind me!”) But I HAVE to mind him. Much like when you’re bound and in sensedep, all you can think about is the Mistress (Where is she? What will she do next?), all I can think about (really) is you (Is he still breathing? Is he bored or uncomfortable? Will he start to panic? How long can he last like that?). And you know how sometimes when we play, it’s like we’re so connected, I’m reading your mind? Weird as it is to say, that’s a real thing. When I’m playing with heavy sensedep bondage, that’s when I’m the most tapped in and connected to you. So having that connection while I’m playing with someone else is like running two houses off one small generator. And what if the caged fella melts down, cramps, has to pee, or starts to panic while I’m sticking metal rods in a guy’s dick while he’s in a suffocation hood? Then who gets my attention?
Maybe I overthink things. But that’s what I think.
I think I get what you mean by “a definite sense of being put away”. From your point of view the sub is somehow inaccessible when locked away in a cage? Perhaps some sort of solid sided locking box rather than a cage would be even better. A case of out of sight out of mind?
I once played with a Domme in the DC area that had something like that….sort of a coffin with access lids and a separate compartment for your head, From the inside the thick padding ensured almost total silence and for her it was just a piece of furniture in the corner.
I guess it would be less important from my side of things. I would think being hooded, restrained and hearing impaired would make the cage superfluous from the sub’s perspective.
This Blog is very informative , Thats why i enjoy it so and can get your point of view as well . And you do read my mind well :-} . And i can definitely see those types of situations arising no matter who you are playing with and would more than likely be in a better comfort zone knowing you are 100% focused on my well being
All very interesting thoughts and ideas I must say. Being a fan of heavy bondage, chastity, objectification, and many more things an idea struck me about an addition to the scene. For me (and now that the gears are turning I may make this a reality in the future with my SO and play partner) your original idea would be amazing with one addition to the scene. The person who was going to be bound/caged would have been in chastity for an extended period prior to the session and once restrained had some kind of remote control/variable speed stimulator of choice in close contact with an erogenous zone. When you think it might be getting boring, just turn it on and off at your leisure and with a wireless remote one would not even need to go near the person. Just an interesting thought I think.
-A Random Kinkster
As a sub with years of extended and overnight abandonement, caging, and shackling/gagging experience, your studio seems amazing! That said, caging and related cell imprisonment do not become effective submission tools for me unless I’m left chained and alone for several hours and the reality that i’m not getting out sets in. Unless i’m hogtied or something, cramping hasn’t been an issue. Boredom, on the otherhand is a part of the scene in that it’s really a symptom of the desired powerlessness and hopelessness i experience after a good amount of time in the cage when my submission is tested and i realize that i have no say over release. This type of slavery is very cathartic. Agree whole heartedly that chastity should either precede or be included in any prolonged incarceration.