Someone asked me a generic question about gags via email. I thought my reply was worth sharing and figured I’d just quote it here, but as I started filling in some blanks, it turned into an actual blog post!
Holy Accidental Blogging, Batman! (Y’all should thank him. I am.)
So without further ado, a few words on gags…
I have at least three dozen different gags, ranging from traditional hard as well as rubber ball and bit gags to inflatable gags, piss gags, cock gags, O-rings, mouth spreaders, locking gags, head harnesses, MEO’s Silentium (pictured above, in action) and Raskas, the Scott Paul Humiliator system and other SP gags, and more. (I have about half of the gags on this page, if you need further visuals).
All gags aren’t created equal though. I’m often frustrated by how many can be pushed out of the mouth or still allow for just enough garbled speech to be incredibly annoying.(“What?!”) A few in my collection manage to succeed better than others. The Silentium and Raskas are pretty definitive, the former especially for silencing AND being inescapable. Also good are inflatable butterfly gags and my neoprene breather/piss gag. For low tech, an athletic sock or period panties (i.e. not the skimpy, sexy kind. Stubborn stains optional.) and some duct tape does a pretty stand up job. I’m also fond of “expands in water” sponges, especially for public play. I’ll pop a communion wafer-sized piece in a play partner’s mouth at the dinner table, then smile as I instruct he take a drink of his water. “You should be seen and not heard, baby.” Watching his eyes go wide and his jaw fidget as the sponge expands in his mouth is better than dessert.
When I was sessioning in DC last week, I played with a gag lover who reminded me how sexy a simple “hand over mouth gag” can be. A few days later, I enhanced it with a “hand IN mouth” gag, sliding the gloved fingers on my left hand in the space between his cheek and teeth and covering the rest of his mouth with my palm (this move was paired with two fingers on my right hand jammed into his rectum and my thumb digging into the soft space between the root of his cock and his testicles. “You’re a six-pack,” I told him.).
Open mouth gags, such as my preferred variety, the Spider Gag, are my favorite of all gags (piss friendly gags a close, and similar, second) because usually when someone’s gagged, he’s also pretty strictly bound, and that makes me drool and where better for it to go than his mouth? (Not that deposited fluids are at all limited to spit. Or mine.). Another plus for me with the Spider Gag is hearing his teeth click against the metal. It just sounds really uncomfortable and unpleasant there’s something so hot to me about a guy enduring not-sexy pain for my pleasure.
Would love for y’all to reply in the comments about your favorite gags. If you’ve got a recommendation for a great piss gag, please include a link!
Very exciting blog……makes me want to scene reading it : )
@G
Hope you get some great play! Glad you liked it!
I love the look of the Silentium gag. Does it stay in situ fairly well or are you tempted to tie it on for extra bondage?
I’ve written a blog in the past on gags so this reminds me I need to go back and do part two of it. Gags can be so underated!
@Annisa
I have quite a bit of gear from Fetters myself, including one of the gags that Advo linked (though I shop exclusively from Fetters and not Fettered Pleasure, which carries a lot of Fetters’ gear but is otherwise unaffiliated).
The Silentium stays in place pretty well. The bars are textured to grip and prevent slipping. But I DO definitely tie on … more in a predicament bondage way than to secure the piece, as seen here: http://troyorleans.com/readpics/silentiumNT.jpg
While occasionally a lip or tongue will slip (because I showed a little mercy and didn’t tighten the bar as much as I should have), I’ve never had the piece fall off completely.
Send me a link to your blog post!
Really enjoyed this post. I have to agree with Lady Annisa that gags can be very underrated. Used properly in a scene they can add a huge amount to the dynamic, and they can really ratchet up the intensity levels.
You prompted a blog post of my own about your thoughts here, so thanks for the inspiration!
@paltego
Great post (you’re Mmmmph! right?). You’re right about gags being useful for intensifying a scene. I like drooling on ball gags sometimes just to watch the shiny spit slide and sneak into the cracks of his mouth. Sigh. And so much more.
Great post about gags. One of my favorite is the “How May I Help You” gag: http://www.stockroom.com/The-How-May-I-Help-You-Gag-P2446.aspx
So many options for humiliating, objectifying and frustrating!
@Mistress Justine Cross
I have that gag! It’s from the Scott Paul Humiliator Gag series. I have the toilet roll holder and the serving tray. I love using the serving tray gag at public play parties when I bring a play partner with me. (Here’s a photo of my friend Bart of Syren Productions holding my drink at a 2008 Cat O’ Nine party.)
I really want to have a party in my studio where someone is bound and blindfolded in the bathroom with the toilet roll gag. One day!
Thanks for posting!!
Great post MTO!!
Your observation about the spider gag and teeth clicking is right on. The Silentum gag has the same effect plus the added “bonus” of pulling your lips and toungue away from your face. It looks so appaeling in the photos but it is definately a gag that you can not ignore when it is in place. Every body movement makes it react either by pulling body parts away or banging into your teeth. Having it on certainly heightens your awareness………
@heellvr
Glad you liked it. Didn’t realize that about the Silentium, but now that you say it, it makes sense! You say “appealing in the photos” as if it’s not just as delicious in real life! I say, even MORE!
The wild part about the Silentium, in my opinion, is how it immobilizes the tongue. Fixing the tongue, head, thumbs, toes … all really intense bondage points because they’re so rarely constrained.
I was loitering near the gag box at a recent Serious Bondage Exploratorium. Dunno why…just ended up over near it by coincidence. Just because I talk for a living doesn’t mean I’m some pervert who likes being gagged.
Anyway, I was shocked I tell you, absolutely shocked to see an inflateable piss gag that looked something like this –
http://fetteredpleasures.com/product/watersports/prodWS01.html
Do you mean to tell me that there are people in the world who actually want to use this stuff?
@ Advo
I have that gag (though seem to have misplaced the funnel … hmmm). It’s a good one, though sometimes the floppy tube complicates things when I want to, say, have them in bondage with a slow, steady piss drip … like an oral IV. The funnel feeder gag you linked might be the ticket though. I like! I like! And Christmas is coming….
Oooo, oooo!!!
How about the little demi-tasse type handle on this one?
http://fetteredpleasures.com/product/watersports/prodWS05.html
Advochasty, I have both of those gags, and both are a delight to use. You cannot beat Fettered Pleasures or Fetters for their quality!
I love this topic. It is so hard to find a gag that is inescapable, silencing, safe and can be worn for a long time. I have tried several and my favorite is this one
http://www.sub-shop.com/cat_thumbs/panel.jpg
which, unfortunately, sub-shop.com does not seem to make anymore. I also like a ball gag I have that has a 3″ leather strap all the way around. The ball is attached to the inside of the strap. I can not spit this one out but, for me, holding my jaw open for more that 30 minutes is too painful. I also like 3M Microfoam tape but it is not inescapable (at least with the single piece at a time I have tried). The Silentium looks frightening and exciting.
@AtlPhil
I think someone ordered me that subshop gag once and it was absolutely useless. All of the parts were sized incorrectly … unless you have a 12″ neck. Surprised and glad yours worked for you: I have yet to get anything from that store that was actually functional.
The ball gag with an external strap sounds interesting. Would love to check it out if you have a link. Thanks.
MTO,
I can’t say I’m a huge fan of gags. I enjoy the ability to communicate with the Mistress. But you do make them fun. There are three that I enjoy the most. First, is a gag that so muffles my screams you can turn up the pain intensity and I won’t disturb the neighbors. Next, is any gag that causes me to drool. That is such a measure of just how much control over me you have taken. Unfortunately, it can get a bit messy. Finally, gags I enjoy the most are the ones that allow you total access to my mouth so it can receive anything that you choose to introduce. Yum.
Best,
Whizzer
@Whizzer
I can make most anything fun.
Recently a new play partner told me he disliked gags for the same reason — because he wanted to communicate with the Mistress. Then we played and other than a whole buncha Mmmms and Ohhhs, hardly said a word. So then I started gagging him and then Boom! Chatty Cathy all over the place. Sigh.
I checked and it looks like the ball gag is discontinued too. I think I got it at either sub-shop are Fetish Factory but it has been awhile. I posted a picture of it here
https://flpics0.a.ssl.fastly.net/467/467946/0004b12a-7a64-6923-b5eb-5a56bb06b42f_720.jpg
It is impossible to spit out the ball due to the width of the strap on the back of the neck and because there is no way to get any leverage on the ball due to the way it is attached.
Hello Mistress,
I’m just getting acquainted with your blogs though it doesn’t seem possible I could’ve gone so long without coming across them earlier.
Where do you get the “expands in water” sponge wafers?
Also, I love the idea of “packing gags” but can’t successfully administer one without actually violently gagging and wretching. Have any suggestions on technique or resources? Or am I just hopeless?
Cheers!
zen
The expands in water sponges are available in most home/housewares stores. They’re usually orangey-yellow, about 4″ long and an inch wide. If you google “compressed sponges” you should get a lot of hits. Not sure what to tell you about your difficulty with packing gags…except to relax your throat more?
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