I often find myself challenging a lot of what’s considered “dominant” behavior. I rarely kit up in fetish clothes (ironically, most of that ‘trixy gear is so demanding to wear, I end up feeling like I’m submitting to it). I’ll sit on the floor at his feet while I tell him all the tortureful things … Read More
philosophy
Whatcha Want?
It’s not at all unusual for me to ask a client, “So, what are you in the mood for today?”It’s also not unusual for the client to respond, “Uh, I dunno. Whatever you’d like to do, Mistress.” While I appreciate the verbal carte blanche, the thing is … well, if there was something I was … Read More
Zero to 60
Clients are an interesting bunch. For every man who tells me that he wishes he could take more pain or marks or just fantasizes about giving me the pleasure of not holding back, there’s another who worries that I won’t have fun playing with him because I’m such a “heavy player” and his pain tolerance … Read More
Training Days: Some Background
Because I’m loathe to join Sugasm just to heighten my post count and I really do want to give y’all more stuff to read and respond to (I *LOVE* my commenters!!!!), I’ve decided to start reposting some of my more defining contributions to The Hang at Max Fisch for further reflection and discussion (esp. since … Read More
Don’t Say I Didn’t Warn You
In my last post, I talked about how clients are often concerned that I play too heavy/hard for them. That I will give them more pain than they can handle. That I’m too sadistic. That’s not what you need to worry about. What you need to prepare yourself for is that I will definitely get … Read More